Judy, you were one of the first people that welcomed me to the unit. We often ate dinner together, and we would talk about our girls. I loved hearing all about Gemma. I learned quickly about your love of horses, chickens, farming... all things farming. I thought it was so cool! You even convinced me that I could raise chickens, but you said, "Amber, don't get a horse, you're not ready for that." You know, that I have chickens, but still no horse, Judy. I remember how you were nervous for your LC exam, and I promised I was going to pray for you everyday to pass. I knew you would. You were so so humble, but we all knew you were brilliant, beautiful, and special. I never, never heard you raise your voice to anyone or about anything. I can see your mannerisms and your gentleness in the way you helped those little babies. You always found something beautiful in each one, something that made them special. You always rubbed their heads gently before you would put them to the mother's breast. I loved our name game. I have no clue why, but I started singing to you, "Judy, Judy, pumpkin bootie," and you would just laugh and call me crazy. If I was lucky, you would do a little dance. Then you started "Amber Bamber," and you would just smile everytime you said it. Those were even our last words on Sunday. Judy, we will always celebrate you. Although our time with you was too short, we will cherish the gift that God gave us, you. Love, Amber Bamber
My dearest dearest second cousin. I have only found out this morning that you have left us and I'll miss you so much. Your dry wit, your compassion, your friendship, your love of nature and animals and your laughter will leave such a big hole in our lives. I feel such sorrow for Per & Gemma, and your family. I was only thinking about you last night, talking about midwifery in America, about your dedication and compassion for your work. Love Kara (and family: Geoff, Theo and Dancey) in Australia.
Judy was my best friend when we were kids. We were inseperable forseveral years. We played ghost in the graveyard, kick the can, hideand seek, tag, and anything else us and the other neighborhood kidscould cook up.Judy was a strong and incredibly capable person. Kind and caring,always a protector of anyone or anything that needed her strength.Judy had a major influence on the direction my life would take. Onesummer she talked me into going out for the swim team at Mohican.Judy was already on the team and had quickly become a star. I joinedthe team with Judy that summer. We swam together and made great lifelong memories and friends.Without Judy I never become a competitive swimmer, never dive incollege, never go to FSU, never meet the mother of my children, neverhave my son Jesse and my daughter Nicolette. I still swim today thanksto Judy.For years we would host a summer crabfeast at my parents house next toJudy's childhood home. At one such party Judy met Per, the love ofher life. Per, we know you will miss Judy tremendously. We aregrateful for the love, kindness and life that you gave to our dearfriend. Know that we loved Judy in life and her love will live on in spirit in you, in Gemma and in all of us. Rest in peace Judy. We were The Lucky Dogs who had the good fortune to share some time on earth with you. Sincerly,Larry Hoke
I will always remember sweet and funny Judy from our time together at St. Luke's. Judy helped me by volunteering faithfully in the elementary school office and we shared many conversations about the joys of being moms to our special children. Thank you Judy for your insight and humor as well as your kindness and compassion. Per and Gemma, my heart is broken for you. Our family is praying for all of you. Gemma, Steven said to tell you he misses you and is thinking about you too. Debbie Hoffman
I will never forget meeting Judy and Per for the first time and the love and kindness shown to me by them through the years. I met them through Leif and we had many wonderful times together at the farm. They provided some of the warmest memories I have. My prayers are with you all and my heart is just a bit sadder for this great loss. Kathy Cooper
Per, Words can't describe our feelings over your loss. Judy was a great lady. You and Gemma are in our thoughts and prayers. We're here if you need anything... anything at all. Jim and Lisa
Per and Gemma, We are heart broken over this news. We are traveling and will not be in town on Sunday. But do know our family has you in our prayers. I always rescpected Judy for sound advice and valued how grounded she was in her decisions and choices for Gemma as a mother. I loved that she lived life and shared that love of life with Gemma. We are all saddened over this loss. Strength to you in the upcoming months. Love, The Ayers Family - Katherine, Fred, and Ainsley
You are in our prayers during this sad time. I remember Judy both as a fellow mom at First Friends Preschool and as nurse at Martha Jefferson where I gave birth to all three of my children. She was a welcome, familiar face while I was there and offered support after the birth of my children. She was a wonderful, caring person. My daughter Anna has been thinking an praying for Gemma. Her heart breaks as well for your loss.
Sweet Judy. From that first invite for the "free pony rides" to all the advice about my garden. You were such an easy friend to make and an invaluable friend to keep. That smooth, infectious smile and calm, beautiful soul. So thoughtful and creative as mother. You have had an impact on me you will never know. May your beautiful spirit live and grow in your blessed little Gemma. J Wray
Linden Family, I was so saddened to hear of your loss today! I count it as one of the many great memories that I cherish from my time at St. Luke's knowing you all! Your whole family will be in my prayers during the days and months to come! Jennifer Miller
Per so sorry, you ,Judy and I all grew up in a wonderful place and you where booth my very good friend's,all thought the years has separated our friendship it will always be alive in my heart. The world lost another good one but we will never loose our memories. Peace and Love!!! Ray Pettis
My sweet Judy, You are in peace and quiet...so many times we will think of you. Your calm and peaceful demeanor was relaxing to me. Often my loud chaotic personality needed a little zen...your yin to my yang. Your laughter is a fond memory, you would get so tickled with your own jokes and laugh and laugh. Your eyes would sparkle when you spoke of your sweet Gemma. The light of your life. Your love and passion for the babies you took care of was infectious. Your legacy will live on forever. We will love and live a nicer life in your memory...life is precious. We need to take time to tell all those in our lives how much they mean to us. We have all kinds of family...those we were born into, our church family, our neighborhood family, our work family. We need to take the time and give hugs, share our thoughts and let each other know how much we appreciate one another. I appreciate the love and respect and kindness that you gave to me and I will always have my special Judy memories. My Momma's name is Judy and I remember when I first met you, I told you that and you said "It's a good name." I will always think of you when I think of my Momma. Thank you for being part of my family :) Love Lisa Henkel
Gentle Judy, always there for friends, children, and animals, and anyone in need. Her constant, steady, empathetic nature was a blessing to all of us and her love of horses and riding we shared together like horse-crazy teenagers. How I cherished that unending enthusiasm and how very real and true she was! We shared so much advice and help with our children over the years and I was looking forward to so much more.... We will be there for Per and Gemma, Judy. And, what a wonderful horse Pie is! We saw Gemma at her horse show and you would have been so happy and proud. Pie is an angel and will help Gemma through this. Neven, Miles, and I are in Boston now but will be with you and your family in spirit and prayers Sunday. Love, Joanne
I have only known Judy for a short time, but there was always something about her that made me feel like I've known her for years. She was such a kind, caring and beautiful person inside and out. I loved riding with her at Touch Point farm. I have been riding her horse Ruby for her just as I said I would and she is being well taken care of. I know how much she loved her family and pets. I was blessed to have known her. My thoughts and prayers go out to you,Gemma and your family. The world has lost a beautiful lady, but heaven gained a beautiful soul. Miss you Dear Judy! God Bless Heathermichelle Green
There are just no words to describe this incomprehensible, terrible, random thing that took our Judy away--there are no words to describe how lost we all feel. Judy was my sister and a dear friend. When I think of her these are some of the words and phrases I think of: Strong Comforter Genuine Compassionate Fun Fearless Laughter Country girl And of course, animal magnet
Judy was strong. She could always do the difficult things…rushing to aid people in a crisis, comforting the dying, gently helping grieving people cope with the loss of a child. She always knew what to do in an emergency. And while all of us remember Judy’s strength as one of her greatest gifts, Judy also was tender. She was such a well-rounded human being in that sense. This combination of tender and strong made her an excellent nurse, caring for new mothers, making them feel safe, making them feel that they, too, could be competent if they only trusted their natural mothering instincts. I was so lucky that Judy was in the delivery room when I had my daughter Colleen. I will always treasure that memory. In fact, without Judy, my husband, Gary and I would never have met, since Judy introduced us.
Other words I would use to describe Judy are genuine and natural. Judy was always herself. She knew who she was and she was totally without artifice. I think that’s why we were all drawn to Judy. Being with Judy made us all feel safe to be ourselves, too. She showed us what life can be if we are true to ourselves. She was living the life she wanted. How many of us have the guts, the grit, the determination to live the life we want? Judy just did it—worked on a sheep farm in Australia, hitchhiked through New Zealand, fought forest fires out west when she was a park ranger…bought a 70-acre farm. And she found an equally genuine, honest, strong and kind person in Per to help her live her country dream…and when Gemma came into their lives, that life was complete.
Judy was fun. She made everything fun…a trip to the Mennonite store to buy candy was fun, going peach picking was fun, making gingerbread houses with all her nieces at Christmas time was exciting. We never wanted to miss any of those adventures with Judy. And we all enjoyed being along for the ride with Judy. Judy really loved life and she had such a wonderful sense of humor. She loved to laugh-and she had a rip-roaring, completely uninhibited laugh. I will treasure the memories of laughing with Judy until tears rolled down our faces.
Finally, I would be remiss if I didn’t add one more phrase to describe Judy: animal magnet. Judy’s soft spot for animals is legendary. As a child, she was always bringing home strays. Animals seemed to find her…and follow her home. Our parents were really sanguine about all these stray cats and dogs taking up residence at our house along with the birds, gerbils, mice and other animals. For Judy, having a pet boa constrictor in her dorm room at Foxcroft high school was the most natural thing in the world. Judy didn’t sentimentalize or anthropomorphize animals…she understood them. She was comfortable with them and knew how to communicate with them. Animals picked up on that. Like migrating birds, by some kind of primal instinct, they found their way to Lucky Dog Farm…. Gemma is an animal magnet, too. She loves animals and knows how to care for them. She is firm when a dog or horse needs it and gentle when they need that, too. Many of you know that Gemma rode her horse, Pie, in a horse show at her camp on Wednesday and earned a blue ribbon. Gemma will carry forth in Judy’s footsteps as the Dr. Doolittle of Etlan, VA. Per and Gemma, we all love you and will always be here for you. All of us will always carry Judy’s beautiful smile with us. Helen Duddleson Clark
Per and Sweet Gemma Rick and I and our Children are heart broken over your loss. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and we raise your names to God daily, we are with you in sprit and we ask God to embrace you every moment of each day.
Memories of Judy: Jennie and I met Judy and Per early on when I began my Vet practice in Madison. We came to Etlan together to look at a horse for Judy. Judy and Per were so warm and open, friendship came easy. My wife Jennie was very pregnant and did not know anyone here. Judy became Jennie's first friend in Madison at a time of uncertainity, hormones, and homesickness. For that she'll forever be grateful. There are few times in life as memorable as the birth of your children. (especially the first). You have no idea what to expect, what to do, whats normal and what's not. No matter how many classes you take or books you read there is still no way to be prepared for whats ahead. Judy was there for us through the birth of both of our children. She was there on her own time as a friend to hold our hand and tell us it was ok, to make sure that Jennie and the baby were taken care of in the best way possible. The degree to which she put us at ease was remarkable. Her calming, expert presence in this moment will never be forgotten by either of us. I really think she was the only person in the room who was calm. Her calmness seemed to permeate through everyone especially us. After the birth of our first child she was there for Jennie yet again. Judy made sure Thea was nursing properly and reassured Jennie that she was doing a great job as a mother. Judy was also the first person Jennie trusted with caring for Thea which allowed us to go out together at a time when we really needed to. I could go on, but what I want to say is that how many times was Judy such an important part of the most wonderful yet most terrifying moment of a mother and fathers life. The impact she has had on hundreds of families lives is immeasurable. Her generosity, kindness, calming nature, professionalism, and skill are what will live on in the hearts and memories of her friends and those she served professionaly. There is a song that says the only riches you can take to heaven are those you gave away. The riches she gave us when we really needed it was her time and friendship. Judy was an angel to us then and she will be an angel to us now forever. (Chris, Jennie, Thea and Christopher Robertson)
The last 10 days for many of us have been like living through a nightmare. For me the coming of the dreaded mornings awakening, rubbing the eyes, and then hoping among all hopes that it has all been a bad dream do seem to be the worst, and bring the most tears. It is then that the realization that Judy is gone seems to hit home the hardest.
Yet, I have simultaneously found that by being given the opportunity to hike bewilderedly around Lucky Dog/Linden farm last week, where I have had a chance to find meaning everywhere in the stalwart buildings, the shady trees, the green hills and pastures, and the blue Virginia skies…… that Judy is not really gone. This is Judy’s world. Feeling the incredible outpouring of love and support from her family, friends, and neighbors; seeing the bold determination in Gemma earnestly maneuvering and jumping with her beloved Pie; watching the strength and dignity of Per as he comforts us while experiencing the unexplainable loss of a lifelong friend and partner; recognizing that somewhere there is a 22-week pre-me baby who has been given a chance to grow up to possibly cure cancer or comfort a child themself as an adult, or a breast-feeding mom who has gained confidence in her role as a provider of nutrition as well as love; in the pleading eyes of the next ragamuffin canine that wanders into a home asking for a handout and to be a part of the family.....Judy is not gone. Clearly in the minds and in the hearts of all of those who have been touched in one way or another by her, and therefore felt the need to open their hearts at her memorial service this past Sunday, Judy was truly a force of nature we had all came to cherish.
For the measure of a person, the measure of the “meaning” of one’s life, cannot be tallied in the mere accounting of the longevity of that life. It can be measured only by fully appreciating the positive impact on those of us (both two and four-legged) who have had the privilege of sharing time on earth with that life, be it only 50 years, as was Judy’s lot. Yes, we will miss her heart and her mind, her strength and her smile, her compassion and her stubborness.....but we also know that whatever Judy meant to all of us has indeed become a part of each of us forever. Accepting this, and only by accepting this, we can move on and celebrate all that she was and will be for us as we stumble through the remainder of our days. Rest assured that for all of us who loved her, one way or another, and because of who and what she was, Judy WILL always be there.
in disbelief that judy has passed, one of the kindness moments i can remember is when in the nursery there was a preterm born,AS TEARS RAN DOWN HER CHEEKS. ( unable to sustain life) judy held that small one , comforted this little one , until the end of there life. only demonstrates the person, and loving person she was. I knew judy for so long never meet genna however i know judy well enough to know that through her nuturing touch her daughter will have a great strength . ( she will have cherished memories of her mom ) JUDY A KIND LOVING NURSE, MOTHER, LOVING WIFE. AND SO , SO MUCH MORE.
Dear Judy, The other night I asked Gemma if we are honestly going to make it without you. You are going to be gone a long time from us. Gemma asked that I treat your absence as if you had to go away. Not in a bad way, but perhaps to go help someone you love that needed you more and that we would understand. So we're writing you this letter to let you know how dreadfully we miss you. Your affections and care of us, your warm and comforting smile and calming,laid-back nature. Your way of finding the humor in a situation and making us laugh about it. We are doing OK, but only because of the generous help and love of family,friends,and neighbors. We are all looking after our precious Gemma and she has done well this Summer, following her passion for horseback riding at camp and at home on her best-pal Pie. You picked the perfect pony for her Jude! You have a knack for horses that is unsurpassed- picking up cues that others may not sense in a horse. We love you and want you back. Wherever you are remember that you will be forever cherished in our hearts. Love, Per and Gemma
I first met Judy in 1988 very shortly after I bought my property here in 'Hidden Valley'. Judy & Per were the first people to welcome me here, and for several years, we were the only people living in the valley. Judy and I shared many interests, horses, dogs, just about any animal. Fast forward to 1999, Judy was the one who got me to Martha Jefferson Hospital when I dislocated my shoulder. Fast forward another few months, one of my mares was due to foal, and I was checking her every 2 hours through the night. Judy saw the lights in the barn one night on her way home from work, and came in to see what was happening. I explained, and (typical Judy) she said "Why don't I just swing by here every night on my way home, that way you can sleep for 4 hours." She said it with a grin. So we agreed that she would come and wake me if the mare was foaling when she got there. Well, one night (horses always foal at night) my mare was in labor, and even though I was awakened by Judy's headlights in my driveway, it all happened very quickly. Judy did foal the mare for me, the mare required a little bit of assistance, and Judy immediately became the honorary godmother to a baby draft horse! Judy had a special sense of humor, a subtle dry wit, that I will always remember. And I believe that Judy's spirit is still here with us, in Hidden Valley.
These three quotes have stuck with me since June and I wanted to share them again here on your blogspot. " Her love is everywhere. It follows me as I go about the house, meets me in the garden, sends swans into my dreams. In a strange, underwater way I am very nearly happy." -Sylvia Townsend Warner " I will miss seeing her face and hearing her voice and knowing she was always there close to me. She has crossed a river from me that I must wait to cross before I see her again. When I see a river, I will think of her." -Terry Kay " I know well there is no comfort for this parting: the wound always remains, but one learns to bear the pain, and learns to thank God for what He gave, for the beautiful memories of the past, and yet more beautiful hope for the future." -Max Muller ***Per***
Judy, you were one of the first people that welcomed me to the unit. We often ate dinner together, and we would talk about our girls. I loved hearing all about Gemma. I learned quickly about your love of horses, chickens, farming... all things farming. I thought it was so cool! You even convinced me that I could raise chickens, but you said, "Amber, don't get a horse, you're not ready for that." You know, that I have chickens, but still no horse, Judy. I remember how you were nervous for your LC exam, and I promised I was going to pray for you everyday to pass. I knew you would. You were so so humble, but we all knew you were brilliant, beautiful, and special. I never, never heard you raise your voice to anyone or about anything. I can see your mannerisms and your gentleness in the way you helped those little babies. You always found something beautiful in each one, something that made them special. You always rubbed their heads gently before you would put them to the mother's breast. I loved our name game. I have no clue why, but I started singing to you, "Judy, Judy, pumpkin bootie," and you would just laugh and call me crazy. If I was lucky, you would do a little dance. Then you started "Amber Bamber," and you would just smile everytime you said it. Those were even our last words on Sunday. Judy, we will always celebrate you. Although our time with you was too short, we will cherish the gift that God gave us, you. Love, Amber Bamber
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear of your loss, Judy. My family and I are praying for you, the Linden's, and your family.
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Meghan O. Abell
My dearest dearest second cousin. I have only found out this morning that you have left us and I'll miss you so much. Your dry wit, your compassion, your friendship, your love of nature and animals and your laughter will leave such a big hole in our lives. I feel such sorrow for Per & Gemma, and your family. I was only thinking about you last night, talking about midwifery in America, about your dedication and compassion for your work. Love Kara (and family: Geoff, Theo and Dancey) in Australia.
ReplyDeleteJudy was my best friend when we were kids. We were inseperable forseveral years. We played ghost in the graveyard, kick the can, hideand seek, tag, and anything else us and the other neighborhood kidscould cook up.Judy was a strong and incredibly capable person. Kind and caring,always a protector of anyone or anything that needed her strength.Judy had a major influence on the direction my life would take. Onesummer she talked me into going out for the swim team at Mohican.Judy was already on the team and had quickly become a star. I joinedthe team with Judy that summer. We swam together and made great lifelong memories and friends.Without Judy I never become a competitive swimmer, never dive incollege, never go to FSU, never meet the mother of my children, neverhave my son Jesse and my daughter Nicolette. I still swim today thanksto Judy.For years we would host a summer crabfeast at my parents house next toJudy's childhood home. At one such party Judy met Per, the love ofher life. Per, we know you will miss Judy tremendously. We aregrateful for the love, kindness and life that you gave to our dearfriend. Know that we loved Judy in life and her love will live on in spirit in you, in Gemma and in all of us. Rest in peace Judy. We were The Lucky Dogs who had the good fortune to share some time on earth with you. Sincerly,Larry Hoke
ReplyDeleteI will always remember sweet and funny Judy from our time together at St. Luke's. Judy helped me by volunteering faithfully in the elementary school office and we shared many conversations about the joys of being moms to our special children. Thank you Judy for your insight and humor as well as your kindness and compassion. Per and Gemma, my heart is broken for you. Our family is praying for all of you. Gemma, Steven said to tell you he misses you and is thinking about you too.
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I will never forget meeting Judy and Per for the first time and the love and kindness shown to me by them through the years. I met them through Leif and we had many wonderful times together at the farm. They provided some of the warmest memories I have. My prayers are with you all and my heart is just a bit sadder for this great loss.
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Per,
ReplyDeleteWords can't describe our feelings over your loss. Judy was a great lady. You and Gemma are in our thoughts and prayers. We're here if you need anything... anything at all.
Jim and Lisa
Per and Gemma,
ReplyDeleteWe are heart broken over this news. We are traveling and will not be in town on Sunday. But do know our family has you in our prayers. I always rescpected Judy for sound advice and valued how grounded she was in her decisions and choices for Gemma as a mother. I loved that she lived life and shared that love of life with Gemma. We are all saddened over this loss. Strength to you in the upcoming months. Love, The Ayers Family - Katherine, Fred, and Ainsley
Per and Gemma,
ReplyDeleteYou are in our prayers during this sad time. I remember Judy both as a fellow mom at First Friends Preschool and as nurse at Martha Jefferson where I gave birth to all three of my children. She was a welcome, familiar face while I was there and offered support after the birth of my children. She was a wonderful, caring person. My daughter Anna has been thinking an praying for Gemma. Her heart breaks as well for your loss.
Sweet Judy.
ReplyDeleteFrom that first invite for the "free pony rides" to all the advice about my garden.
You were such an easy friend to make and an invaluable friend to keep.
That smooth, infectious smile and calm, beautiful soul.
So thoughtful and creative as mother.
You have had an impact on me you will never know.
May your beautiful spirit live and grow in your blessed little Gemma.
J Wray
Linden Family,
ReplyDeleteI was so saddened to hear of your loss today! I count it as one of the many great memories that I cherish from my time at St. Luke's knowing you all! Your whole family will be in my prayers during the days and months to come!
Jennifer Miller
I am so sorry for the loss of your sister,
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Michele Kubas
Kirsten Kubas
Per so sorry, you ,Judy and I all grew up in a wonderful place and you where booth my very good friend's,all thought the years has separated our friendship it will always be alive in my heart. The world lost another good one but we will never loose our memories. Peace and Love!!! Ray Pettis
ReplyDeleteMy sweet Judy,
ReplyDeleteYou are in peace and quiet...so many times we will think of you. Your calm and peaceful demeanor was relaxing to me. Often my loud chaotic personality needed a little zen...your yin to my yang. Your laughter is a fond memory, you would get so tickled with your own jokes and laugh and laugh. Your eyes would sparkle when you spoke of your sweet Gemma. The light of your life. Your love and passion for the babies you took care of was infectious. Your legacy will live on forever. We will love and live a nicer life in your memory...life is precious. We need to take time to tell all those in our lives how much they mean to us. We have all kinds of family...those we were born into, our church family, our neighborhood family, our work family. We need to take the time and give hugs, share our thoughts and let each other know how much we appreciate one another. I appreciate the love and respect and kindness that you gave to me and I will always have my special Judy memories. My Momma's name is Judy and I remember when I first met you, I told you that and you said "It's a good name." I will always think of you when I think of my Momma. Thank you for being part of my family :)
Love Lisa Henkel
Gentle Judy, always there for friends, children, and animals, and anyone in need. Her constant, steady, empathetic nature was a blessing to all of us and her love of horses and riding we shared together like horse-crazy teenagers. How I cherished that unending enthusiasm and how very real and true she was! We shared so much advice and help with our children over the years and I was looking forward to so much more.... We will be there for Per and Gemma, Judy. And, what a wonderful horse Pie is! We saw Gemma at her horse show and you would have been so happy and proud. Pie is an angel and will help Gemma through this. Neven, Miles, and I are in Boston now but will be with you and your family in spirit and prayers Sunday. Love,
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Dear Linden Family,
ReplyDeleteI have only known Judy for a short time, but there was always something about her that made me feel like I've known her for years. She was such a kind, caring and beautiful person inside and out. I loved riding with her at Touch Point farm. I have been riding her horse Ruby for her just as I said I would and she is being well taken care of. I know how much she loved her family and pets. I was blessed to have known her. My thoughts and prayers go out to you,Gemma and your family. The world has lost a beautiful lady, but heaven gained a beautiful soul. Miss you Dear Judy!
God Bless
Heathermichelle Green
There are just no words to describe this incomprehensible, terrible, random thing that took our Judy away--there are no words to describe how lost we all feel.
ReplyDeleteJudy was my sister and a dear friend. When I think of her these are some of the words and phrases I think of:
Strong
Comforter
Genuine
Compassionate
Fun
Fearless
Laughter
Country girl
And of course, animal magnet
Judy was strong. She could always do the difficult things…rushing to aid people in a crisis, comforting the dying, gently helping grieving people cope with the loss of a child. She always knew what to do in an emergency. And while all of us remember Judy’s strength as one of her greatest gifts, Judy also was tender. She was such a well-rounded human being in that sense. This combination of tender and strong made her an excellent nurse, caring for new mothers, making them feel safe, making them feel that they, too, could be competent if they only trusted their natural mothering instincts. I was so lucky that Judy was in the delivery room when I had my daughter Colleen. I will always treasure that memory. In fact, without Judy, my husband, Gary and I would never have met, since Judy introduced us.
Other words I would use to describe Judy are genuine and natural. Judy was always herself. She knew who she was and she was totally without artifice. I think that’s why we were all drawn to Judy. Being with Judy made us all feel safe to be ourselves, too. She showed us what life can be if we are true to ourselves. She was living the life she wanted. How many of us have the guts, the grit, the determination to live the life we want? Judy just did it—worked on a sheep farm in Australia, hitchhiked through New Zealand, fought forest fires out west when she was a park ranger…bought a 70-acre farm. And she found an equally genuine, honest, strong and kind person in Per to help her live her country dream…and when Gemma came into their lives, that life was complete.
Judy was fun. She made everything fun…a trip to the Mennonite store to buy candy was fun, going peach picking was fun, making gingerbread houses with all her nieces at Christmas time was exciting. We never wanted to miss any of those adventures with Judy. And we all enjoyed being along for the ride with Judy. Judy really loved life and she had such a wonderful sense of humor. She loved to laugh-and she had a rip-roaring, completely uninhibited laugh. I will treasure the memories of laughing with Judy until tears rolled down our faces.
Finally, I would be remiss if I didn’t add one more phrase to describe Judy: animal magnet. Judy’s soft spot for animals is legendary. As a child, she was always bringing home strays. Animals seemed to find her…and follow her home. Our parents were really sanguine about all these stray cats and dogs taking up residence at our house along with the birds, gerbils, mice and other animals. For Judy, having a pet boa constrictor in her dorm room at Foxcroft high school was the most natural thing in the world. Judy didn’t sentimentalize or anthropomorphize animals…she understood them. She was comfortable with them and knew how to communicate with them. Animals picked up on that. Like migrating birds, by some kind of primal instinct, they found their way to Lucky Dog Farm…. Gemma is an animal magnet, too. She loves animals and knows how to care for them. She is firm when a dog or horse needs it and gentle when they need that, too. Many of you know that Gemma rode her horse, Pie, in a horse show at her camp on Wednesday and earned a blue ribbon. Gemma will carry forth in Judy’s footsteps as the Dr. Doolittle of Etlan, VA.
Per and Gemma, we all love you and will always be here for you. All of us will always carry Judy’s beautiful smile with us.
Helen Duddleson Clark
To all the Linden's and Duddleson's,
ReplyDeleteI am speechless, just want you to know you are in my heart, thoughts and prayers. Rita Schwartz
Per and Sweet Gemma
ReplyDeleteRick and I and our Children are heart broken over your loss. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and we raise your names to God daily, we are with you in sprit and we ask God to embrace you every moment of each day.
Rick and Cathy Gibbs
Memories of Judy:
ReplyDeleteJennie and I met Judy and Per early on when I began my Vet practice in Madison. We came to Etlan together to look at a horse for Judy. Judy and Per were so warm and open, friendship came easy. My wife Jennie was very pregnant and did not know anyone here. Judy became Jennie's first friend in Madison at a time of uncertainity, hormones, and homesickness. For that she'll forever be grateful.
There are few times in life as memorable as the birth of your children. (especially the first). You have no idea what to expect, what to do, whats normal and what's not. No matter how many classes you take or books you read there is still no way to be prepared for whats ahead. Judy was there for us through the birth of both of our children. She was there on her own time as a friend to hold our hand and tell us it was ok, to make sure that Jennie and the baby were taken care of in the best way possible. The degree to which she put us at ease was remarkable. Her calming, expert presence in this moment will never be forgotten by either of us. I really think she was the only person in the room who was calm. Her calmness seemed to permeate through everyone especially us. After the birth of our first child she was there for Jennie yet again. Judy made sure Thea was nursing properly and reassured Jennie that she was doing a great job as a mother. Judy was also the first person Jennie trusted with caring for Thea which allowed us to go out together at a time when we really needed to. I could go on, but what I want to say is that how many times was Judy such an important part of the most wonderful yet most terrifying moment of a mother and fathers life. The impact she has had on hundreds of families lives is immeasurable. Her generosity, kindness, calming nature, professionalism, and skill are what will live on in the hearts and memories of her friends and those she served professionaly. There is a song that says the only riches you can take to heaven are those you gave away. The riches she gave us when we really needed it was her time and friendship.
Judy was an angel to us then and she will be an angel to us now forever. (Chris, Jennie, Thea and Christopher Robertson)
The last 10 days for many of us have been like living through a nightmare. For me the coming of the dreaded mornings awakening, rubbing the eyes, and then hoping among all hopes that it has all been a bad dream do seem to be the worst, and bring the most tears. It is then that the realization that Judy is gone seems to hit home the hardest.
ReplyDeleteYet, I have simultaneously found that by being given the opportunity to hike bewilderedly around Lucky Dog/Linden farm last week, where I have had a chance to find meaning everywhere in the stalwart buildings, the shady trees, the green hills and pastures, and the blue Virginia skies…… that Judy is not really gone. This is Judy’s world. Feeling the incredible outpouring of love and support from her family, friends, and neighbors; seeing the bold determination in Gemma earnestly maneuvering and jumping with her beloved Pie; watching the strength and dignity of Per as he comforts us while experiencing the unexplainable loss of a lifelong friend and partner; recognizing that somewhere there is a 22-week pre-me baby who has been given a chance to grow up to possibly cure cancer or comfort a child themself as an adult, or a breast-feeding mom who has gained confidence in her role as a provider of nutrition as well as love; in the pleading eyes of the next ragamuffin canine that wanders into a home asking for a handout and to be a part of the family.....Judy is not gone. Clearly in the minds and in the hearts of all of those who have been touched in one way or another by her, and therefore felt the need to open their hearts at her memorial service this past Sunday, Judy was truly a force of nature we had all came to cherish.
For the measure of a person, the measure of the “meaning” of one’s life, cannot be tallied in the mere accounting of the longevity of that life. It can be measured only by fully appreciating the positive impact on those of us (both two and four-legged) who have had the privilege of sharing time on earth with that life, be it only 50 years, as was Judy’s lot. Yes, we will miss her heart and her mind, her strength and her smile, her compassion and her stubborness.....but we also know that whatever Judy meant to all of us has indeed become a part of each of us forever. Accepting this, and only by accepting this, we can move on and celebrate all that she was and will be for us as we stumble through the remainder of our days. Rest assured that for all of us who loved her, one way or another, and because of who and what she was, Judy WILL always be there.
-brother-in-law Jim
Beautiful, Jim.Thank you.
ReplyDeletein disbelief that judy has passed, one of the kindness moments i can remember is when in the nursery there was a preterm born,AS TEARS RAN DOWN HER CHEEKS. ( unable to sustain life) judy held that small one , comforted this little one , until the end of there life. only demonstrates the person, and loving person she was. I knew judy for so long never meet genna however i know judy well enough to know that through her nuturing touch her daughter will have a great strength . ( she will have cherished memories of her mom ) JUDY A KIND LOVING NURSE, MOTHER, LOVING WIFE. AND SO , SO MUCH MORE.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful memory. Thanks so much. Sincerely, Helen (Judy's sister)
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DeleteDear Judy, The other night I asked Gemma if we are honestly going to make it without you. You are going to be gone a long time from us. Gemma asked that I treat your absence as if you had to go away. Not in a bad way, but perhaps to go help someone you love that needed you more and that we would understand. So we're writing you this letter to let you know how dreadfully we miss you. Your affections and care of us, your warm and comforting smile and calming,laid-back nature. Your way of finding the humor in a situation and making us laugh about it. We are doing OK, but only because of the generous help and love of family,friends,and neighbors. We are all looking after our precious Gemma and she has done well this Summer, following her passion for horseback riding at camp and at home on her best-pal Pie. You picked the perfect pony for her Jude! You have a knack for horses that is unsurpassed- picking up cues that others may not sense in a horse. We love you and want you back. Wherever you are remember that you will be forever cherished in our hearts. Love, Per and Gemma
ReplyDeleteI first met Judy in 1988 very shortly after I bought my property here in 'Hidden Valley'. Judy & Per were the first people to welcome me here, and for several years, we were the only people living in the valley. Judy and I shared many interests, horses, dogs, just about any animal. Fast forward to 1999, Judy was the one who got me to Martha Jefferson Hospital when I dislocated my shoulder. Fast forward another few months, one of my mares was due to foal, and I was checking her every 2 hours through the night. Judy saw the lights in the barn one night on her way home from work, and came in to see what was happening. I explained, and (typical Judy) she said "Why don't I just swing by here every night on my way home, that way you can sleep for 4 hours." She said it with a grin. So we agreed that she would come and wake me if the mare was foaling when she got there. Well, one night (horses always foal at night) my mare was in labor, and even though I was awakened by Judy's headlights in my driveway, it all happened very quickly. Judy did foal the mare for me, the mare required a little bit of assistance, and Judy immediately became the honorary godmother to a baby draft horse! Judy had a special sense of humor, a subtle dry wit, that I will always remember. And I believe that Judy's spirit is still here with us, in Hidden Valley.
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These three quotes have stuck with me since June and I wanted to share them again here on your blogspot. " Her love is everywhere. It follows me as I go about the house, meets me in the garden, sends swans into my dreams. In a strange, underwater way I am very nearly happy." -Sylvia Townsend Warner " I will miss seeing her face and hearing her voice and knowing she was always there close to me. She has crossed a river from me that I must wait to cross before I see her again. When I see a river, I will think of her." -Terry Kay " I know well there is no comfort for this parting: the wound always remains, but one learns to bear the pain, and learns to thank God for what He gave, for the beautiful memories of the past, and yet more beautiful hope for the future." -Max Muller ***Per***
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